The Kindest Way to Control a Horse

The Kindest Way to Control a Horse

The Kindest Way to Control a HorseStormy May
Published on: 04/09/2026

What if the most subtle form of control is the kindest-looking one? Exploring the “wolf in sheep’s clothing” in modern horsemanship—and what changes when we stop asking how to better accomplish our goals and start questioning whose goals they are.

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What If Their Purpose Was Never Ours to Decide?

What If Their Purpose Was Never Ours to Decide?

What If Their Purpose Was Never Ours to Decide?Stormy May
Published on: 02/09/2026

What if a horse's purpose was never ours to decide? A reflection on letting go of control, ownership, and obedience, and choosing presence, guardianship, and trust instead. A different way of seeing horses, and ourselves.

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What If Your Horse Doesn't Need to Trust You Yet?

What If Your Horse Doesn't Need to Trust You Yet?

What If Your Horse Doesn't Need to Trust You Yet?Stormy May
Published on: 27/08/2026

Trust isn't something we can demand from a horse. It develops through patience, consistency, respect for boundaries, and giving the horse time to decide that we are safe.

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What Are You Missing?

What Are You Missing?

What Are You Missing?Stormy May
Published on: 26/08/2026

A quiet encounter with Rasa taught me that relationship may begin with curiosity—not asking another being to look at us, but becoming curious about what they are looking at.

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